So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

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So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by Neß on Sun Aug 25, 2013 1:43 am

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Re: So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by Pyro-Hem on Sun Aug 25, 2013 1:56 am

Well shit son. You have to deal with it, and by that I mean, you should seriously apologize. It doesn't matter that they don't wanna see you/text, because no matter what they say, an apology will make them feel a bit better. Not a whole lot left that you can do. Just send one apology, then give it some time before you do much else. 

Really, it depends on what you did to cause said person to hate you... You don't have to post it. Just... idk man. I've never been in that kind of situation yet in my life, but I guess I'd just try to keep my cool, apologize and just get the whole thing out of my system. Hopefully then it would have been enough time for the other person to have done so as well, which would then be the proper time to try to talk to each other...
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Re: So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by Thirty3Three on Sun Aug 25, 2013 2:03 am

Pyro-Hem wrote:Well shit son. You have to deal with it, and by that I mean, you should seriously apologize. It doesn't matter that they don't wanna see you/text, because no matter what they say, an apology will make them feel a bit better. Not a whole lot left that you can do. Just send one apology, then give it some time before you do much else. 

Really, it depends on what you did to cause said person to hate you... You don't have to post it. Just... idk man. I've never been in that kind of situation yet in my life, but I guess I'd just try to keep my cool, apologize and just get the whole thing out of my system. Hopefully then it would have been enough time for the other person to have done so as well, which would then be the proper time to try to talk to each other...

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Make sure they know you seriously mean what you're saying through you're apology; make it genuine.

However, if they're still mad, give them space. Time heals. My old gf (I'm still getting over her) is just now beginning to speak to me again (rarely though) after 5 years of silence.

Don't worry dude! Whatever's meant to be, will happen. If you need anything, Inbox me! I can't promise that I'll answer right away, but I'll try my best!
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Re: So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by Count Mario on Sun Aug 25, 2013 2:09 am

Pyro pretty much got it down. However, I've been in a LOT of situations on older forums where I looked like a jerk and naive, in both justified and unjustified situations. I haven't gotten as far as to where a whole community or even the people I would talk to would genuinely hate me, but I know that I at least really felt like I screwed up and set a bad impression of myself. Which did cause me to leave a couple forums out of low self-esteem and constant guilt that built up over time.

However, you shouldn't do what I did. Take Triple Three and Pyro's advice of either giving them time or delivering an apology, which can't make things worse (at the very least). I'm sure that me, as well as other members on here, are more than willing to talk more. If you'd like, that is.
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Re: So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by lpool1996moh on Sun Aug 25, 2013 7:36 am

I suggest murder. Just murder everyone. Works for me. Here borrow my serial killer name "Zodiac"


jokes aside like pyro said a sincere apology can make headway but after that you gotta give space which to put it bluntly often means your fucked anyway. If this person is a relative wounds will heal. If its a work colleague or some one you see regularly they may heal. If its a friend or girlfriend...not so much.  

Sorry if that's depressing but I don't butter up stuff.
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Re: So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by Count Mario on Sun Aug 25, 2013 7:42 am

"Zodiac"
...Wow. Just wow.


But actually, lpool, I'd say that, barring girlfriends, those categories can be easily switched up. It really depends.
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Re: So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by Neß on Sun Aug 25, 2013 3:38 pm

Thanks for the advice guys. I'll probably just wait a bit before apologizing profusely and then see what happens.
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Re: So what do you do when you screw up so badly that no one wants to see your text/face anymore, but you feel the pressing need to issue an apology that won't fix anything?

Post by Trey-Caige II on Sun Aug 25, 2013 4:33 pm

Pyro pretty much nailed it. So that.
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